The wives of drunken husbands know what a great disaster it is for the whole family. In addition, not only two people who once loved each other suffer, but also their children. All dreams and plans made at the beginning of family life are shattered. Usually, after several unsuccessful attempts to force her husband not to drink, the woman makes the only decision that she thinks is right - to divorce. However, do not rush, because this person next to you was once kind, cheerful and affectionate, which is why you fell in love with him. Precisely because your husband has not always been an alcoholic, it is worth trying to help him. There are many ways to get your husband to stop drinking. But first you need to determine the cause of this disease and eliminate it. This is the only way to be sure that all methods of combating alcoholism will give the expected result.
Causes of alcoholism of the husband
Even when a drunken husband gets so drunk that loved ones and family are pushed into the background, you don't have to stop the man. If you correctly identify the causes of the disease, you can deal with the addiction.
Your spouse may drink alcohol for the following reasons:
- Do not underestimate the power of heredity. If a person's father suffers from alcoholism, then the probability of this disease is high for him. However, the hereditary factor alone cannot provoke alcoholism, so some impetus is needed in the form of trouble, problems in the family, the drinking environment.
- Constant problems in family life. Usually the wives of drunken husbands had the same fathers, so they subconsciously chose for themselves a husband who was already addicted or had the preconditions for its occurrence. Moreover, such women themselves provoke their husbands to crave alcohol with their constant reproaches, eternal control. By depriving the wife of the opportunity to be the head of the family, they push him into the abyss of alcoholism, because it is there that most of these men seek a way out and comfort.
- If your friend or spouse can't get along completely, it can be addictive. Usually such people suppress the feeling of dissatisfaction with life with alcohol, as a result of which a harmful desire for alcohol arises.
- Often, grief can be the cause of alcoholism. If the pain of losing a loved one or loved one is very strong, then a man can start drinking alcohol to drown it.
- For some men who have a hereditary predisposition to alcoholism, the type of people around them is very important. If his friends or colleagues often drink alcohol, over time he may become addicted and start drinking vodka regularly.
- For some people, alcohol is an opportunity to draw attention to themselves. Usually such alcoholism is typical for adolescents, but an adult can not be an exception.
- Some men who drink alcohol try to alleviate the mental pain that arises from problems of an intimate nature or an incurable disease.
What can the wife do?
If you want to know how to make your husband stop drinking, then you should adhere to the following recommendations:
- You should not make scandals and blame your husband. Screaming and arguing will only make matters worse.
- You must first be patient and stop paying attention to your husband's alcoholism. Once you accept his condition, it will be easier for you to concentrate and start looking for the cause. Remember everything from the first day of drunkenness.
- Let the house always be quiet and peaceful, surround your husband with care and attention. If you are not in a hurry to go home after work, but stay with friends for a drink, let it be warm and cozy at home, it smells like a delicious dinner. This will make your life partner rush home after work.
- Show interest in your husband's life and work. Unobtrusively involve him in child care and household chores. However, it is important to know that repetitive and repetitive work will not help your husband to give up drinking. It is important that his duties are interesting and distract thoughts of alcohol.
- There is no need to convince him not to drink on the weekends. It is better to organize interesting and rich leisure activities for the whole family. The time you spend together in an entertainment center or outdoors will give your husband positive emotions and help you relax without alcohol. As a result, you will not need to force him not to drink, as he himself will appreciate how good life is without alcohol.
- Before convincing your husband to stop drinking, you need to reduce his contact with friends who drink. If you can guess the upcoming holiday, distract your husband from him with a more tempting offer, which he can not refuse.
- While persuading believers not to drink, it is worth remembering that some men drink due to lack of hobbies and banal boredom. If you find an interesting hobby or hobby for your husband, then he himself will stop drinking.
As a rule, you can convince your husband not to drink and you can use our recommendations for ordinary home drunkenness or if a person suffers from the first stage of alcoholism. With the help of our tips you can direct your husband's attention to other aspects of life, which will allow him to forget about addiction. However, if the disease is advanced and has reached more serious stages, it will be very difficult to make the man stop drinking. In this case, it is better to seek professional help.
Rules of conduct with an alcoholic spouse
If you want to understand how a wife can make her husband stop drinking without the help of specialists, then start with yourself. Your proper behavior will create a fertile ground for overcoming addiction:
- Stop patronizing believers and do not solve the problems that have arisen with him due to his own drunkenness. Otherwise, your care will become something ordinary and obligatory for him, and in such a situation he simply does not want to change anything. Do not apologize and apologize for his bad behavior by friends and management. He must solve these problems himself, because they arose through his fault. You don't have to put him to bed and undress him if he's home drunk. Let him sleep everywhere so he can judge in the morning how drunk he is.
- Often, if the wife tries to force her husband to stop drinking, he blackmails her by leaving the family. Ignore such threats, because the drinker will simply be afraid to make important cardinal decisions. This is a simple blackmail, nothing more.
- Usually, the person who makes you stop drinking thinks so often about your partner's drinking needs in life that he forgets about himself. It is not right. Do not stop taking care of yourself, pursue your favorite hobbies. This can help boost your spouse's self-esteem. Then the drinking man will not want to lose his beautiful, self-confident wife and may decide to stop drinking on his own.
- If your spouse has a severe hangover or withdrawal symptoms, you should not buy him a bottle of beer to drink. At this point, you have a chance to make him stop drinking. But before you convince your husband to give up alcohol, offer him your help and help get rid of abstinence with home remedies or drugs. In this state one will agree with any help and will agree with everything.
- When believers are sober, talk seriously about treating alcohol dependence. Do not agree with his promises to give up drinking yourself. Tell him that you will only stay with him if he begins to recover from the addiction.
Home treatment
If you have found a way to force your husband not to drink, then you will need help, because in the beginning the desire alone is not enough, you need to overcome the psychological dependence. The following methods can be used to combat addiction:
- Medicines. Even if we are not talking about an injection or ampoule coding method, you should consult your doctor before taking special pills or drops for alcoholism. The thing is that each drug has its own contraindications. That is why it is so important to know the condition of the patient's body. Only a doctor will be able to choose an effective drug that will help her husband to give up drinking and will not have a negative effect on the body.
- More severe coding methods involve placing an ampoule of a drug under the skin, which either causes intolerance to alcohol or suppresses the feeling of pleasure from drinking an alcoholic beverage. Such coding is performed only by a narcologist with the written consent of the patient. The coding period can be from 6 months to 5 years. The procedure can be performed three times. If the coding is done with a drug that causes intolerance to alcohol, then by taking even a small dose of alcohol, the patient may experience serious health problems (to death).
- Hypnotic coding is appropriate for presumed patients. It is very important that they themselves agree to this procedure and trust the doctor completely. Several sessions will be needed to achieve a lasting effect.
- Folk methods. This includes not only herbal medicine, but also the use of various conspiracies, prayers. For such treatment you can contact traditional healers or perform procedures and rituals yourself.
- Acupuncture is sometimes used to induce aversion to alcohol. Due to the impact on bioactive points, a persistent aversion to alcohol is formed. For treatment you will have to go through a whole course of sessions. This technique is especially effective in preventing recurrence.
